Conversations that happen when we are in a reactive state are very different than conversations from a responsive state. Having "conscious conversations" means that we have the awareness — and the skills — to transform these reactive moments into responsive interactions where people feel heard and valued, especially when emotions are rising, the stakes are high, and reactivity is abundant.

Developing this level of self-awareness and the skills to shift habitual patterns of reactive behavior is challenging and requires a significant personal commitment.

Are you ready to make the personal commitment to grow and sustain conscious relationships in your work and home life?

The first part of having conscious conversations is to develop the awareness and skills to transform the reactivity in ourselves. As we gain confidence in transforming reactivity, then are we ready to engage in the those challenging but important conversations where we feel uncomfortable or scared.

Conscious conversation awareness and skills are equally powerful in communicating our gratitude to others who have contributed to ourselves or the team.


Session Outlines

Session 1: Move to Presence Before Action: Transform our own reactiveness
Be aware of your own fear-based patterns: common triggers & limiting beliefs
Practice the name-embrace-transcend process to diminish my unconscious reactions
Amplify your awareness of body sensations as pathway to self-connection

Session 2: Shift out of the Drama Triangle: Recognize - and transcend - patterns of reactivity in the workplace
​Understand common patterns of reactivity within group interactions
Explore how do I show up as "perpetrator," "victim" and "rescuer" within my work relationships
Take healthy responsibility for my part in the drama triangle
Shift out of the drama triangle by taking ownership and making the "wonder move"

​Session 3: Engage in Uncomfortable Conversations: What to do when you engage in challenging situations and strong emotions arise
Why we need to initiate uncomfortable conversations
How to prepare for uncomfortable conversations
Develop the skills to be comfortable being uncomfortable
Shine the light on what matters during the conversation

Session 4: Harvest the Gifts of "Conflict": Focus on what matters amidst the chaos​
When I experience interpersonal "conflict" in the workplace, what does it look like to me? ... and what do I do in the midst of it?
Listen beyond the words - people express anger because something matters to them
Avoid interpersonal communication guidelines that censor language
"Leaning in" to conflict vs. avoiding it - shift your mindset to look for the gifts
Healthy teams embrace "conflict" and have the skills to harvest the gifts

​Session 5: Celebrations, Generosity & Gratitude: The fuel of conscious organizations
Take the time — make the time — to acknowledge what is working well
Express care through generosity - the exquisite beauty when one person reaches out to contribute to and support another person
Express gratitude - recognition that another person has contributed to you or to the team
Receive gratitude - embrace being seen in your contribution

Session 6: Define and Claim Personal & Professional Boundaries: Communicate clarity that supports our work and our dignity​
Setting personal boundaries when others' behaviors are not honoring my fundamental need of human dignity
Expressing personal boundaries​ with clarity and specificity, but not blame
Expressing professional boundaries when other's behaviors are not honoring our roles and our agreements of how we work together
What to do if the other person continues to ignore your expressed boundaries
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Prerequisites / Recommended Preparation
Introduction to Conscious Leadership (a 6-hour workshop)
Needs-Based Communication (NVC) Core Concepts: Enhancing Self-Awareness & Self-Responsibility (a 6-hour workshop)
Co-Requisites / Next Steps
​Hear Me! ... See Me!: Valuing the people in your workplace ... and in your life (a 3-hour workshop)
Conscious Accountability: Effective feedback & accountability without blame (a 6-hour workshop)